My last post got me thinking: Will I make a bad mother?
I closed my last post saying that I loved Egg Roll more than Red because she exhibited positive behavior while Red did something bad. If I ever have multiple children, will the level of my love for each vary depending on how much they please me? Will I encourage a competitive environment between my future children? Will sibling rivalry develop because they want my love and approval more?
If I were to answer that now, I think yeah, I would make a terrible mother. If Elaine Jr excelled at her lacrosse game, then Brock Jr. would be SOL on dessert that night. If Brock Jr. got an A on his test, then Elaine Jr. wouldn't be getting a new pair of shoes. It's terrible. I'm sure most moms will say it all changes when you have kids, but does it really?
I guess there is only one way to find out, but once you find out you are a bad parent, it's too late to give them back. Wouldn't you want your kids to grow up in an environment where they don't vie for their parents love and affection?
sometimes i worry that if my next child is a boy i will love him less because i won't know what to do with him. but you can always train a child to be well-behaved and a blessing to you... it's matter of if you want to put the time in. just have a kid and then you'll know if you'll be a "good" mom or not. ;)
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